THE SYSTEM CHANGE

Having a child or family member with problematic issues may be some of the most painful things you experience today.

You may be finding that you can’t get your loved one to change, no matter how hard you try. This can often lead to intense stress on marriage and other family members as well.

You are not alone. Throughout a lifetime, most all people find themselves stuck at a major crossroad full of grief, at some point.

I’m here to tell you that you can bring change to your family. There is something you have control over. You can find grace and healing for yourself and your family.

Sometimes our underlying problems show up through our reactions to our kids. If we shift this part of the system, the rest cannot remain the same.

Whether dealing with anxiety, anger, relationship or performance issues with your child, YOU are an influencer to their outcome.

We can’t force our children to do what we want, but we can enforce in a way that produces results—through modeling, boundaries and relationship.

“What do you mean I have to focus on me to change my child’s attitude?”

If we are not intentional as parents, we will put out reactions based on our beliefs about ourselves and the world.

Reactions to their success, the venting, the cry for help, the ask for space, the failures, the tantrums, the obedience, the independence, the distance…

Our viewpoints on topics like love, faith, safety, provision and value will all reflect in our responses to our kids.

No more reacting out of immediate feelings like fears, disappointments, manic excitement and anger. We can learn to identify the cause of our child’s behavior. We can find ways to empathize. We can regain their respect and relationship.

We can set aside our reaction, and proceed at our pace with the original strategy:

Holding limits using the lense of grace.

Together, parents, you and I will make a map and walk in it. I will prepare you to lead your family to get the change you seek.

You’ll lead them while knowing your plan and the anticipated outcome:

Relationships restored. Intentional choices moving forward. Acceptance of your worth and your child’s worth, while rejecting the unwanted behavior. Shame lifted. Problem resolved.

Let’s do this…

-JJ